This was so good. I appreciate ALL of this. So often I see this and think it but just didn't take the time to express it so well. I just got used to ignoring the noise as I read through whatever recommendations I ask for. Thanks. Barbara needs to chill. LOL
This was tough to learn because I saw often in real life interactions people brought things up with me to get advice and then I realized with horror, “Oh, no! They never do!” Not just online when it feels worse because it’s amplified by 10,000 but no one ever wants advice. This saves fucking marriages.
I believe it (never married myself). One of the most helpful phrases I learned: “Venting or want advice?” It’s almost never the latter unless they said so originally. And it’s such a great way to say “this is about you, not me”
OH! MY! GAWD! --This...so much this. Yes, yes, yes, yes.
"Okay. I’m going to try to say this calmly and use small, clear words.
1. Yes. You can fucking help it. You are simply choosing not to. Which means you’re walking right the fuck through other people’s boundaries because you’ve decided yours are somehow more important."--Amber Naslund (who has won the interwebs with this post, IMO)
This was so good. I appreciate ALL of this. So often I see this and think it but just didn't take the time to express it so well. I just got used to ignoring the noise as I read through whatever recommendations I ask for. Thanks. Barbara needs to chill. LOL
For real. :) I ignore a lot. DF is where I get to boil over.
This was tough to learn because I saw often in real life interactions people brought things up with me to get advice and then I realized with horror, “Oh, no! They never do!” Not just online when it feels worse because it’s amplified by 10,000 but no one ever wants advice. This saves fucking marriages.
I believe it (never married myself). One of the most helpful phrases I learned: “Venting or want advice?” It’s almost never the latter unless they said so originally. And it’s such a great way to say “this is about you, not me”
OH! MY! GAWD! --This...so much this. Yes, yes, yes, yes.
"Okay. I’m going to try to say this calmly and use small, clear words.
1. Yes. You can fucking help it. You are simply choosing not to. Which means you’re walking right the fuck through other people’s boundaries because you’ve decided yours are somehow more important."--Amber Naslund (who has won the interwebs with this post, IMO)
I would 100% pay for this MasterClass
This was definitely needed today -- thank you for saying (writing) what so many of us already think!